UPDATE: In a powerful call to action, AFL stars and mental health advocates are championing positive male roles to combat domestic violence during a forum in Melbourne on Friday. This urgent initiative seeks to shift perceptions of masculinity and promote accountability among men in the wake of staggering statistics showing at least 74 women have been killed in domestic violence incidents across Australia in 2025.
Brisbane Lions co-captain Harris Andrews emphasized the contrast between his on-field persona and his true self. “The way I perform on the field each and every week is very different to the way that I’m off the field,” he stated, underscoring the importance of vulnerability and care in redefining masculinity.
The forum, convened by Chief Justice William Alstergren and facilitated by Tarang Chawla, the Victorian Multicultural Commissioner, aims to spotlight how men can actively participate in fostering healthier relationships and preventing violence. “The problem stems from boys treating relationships as a game and being bombarded with harmful stereotypes,” Chawla noted, addressing the cultural issues that influence young boys today.
AFL player Marc Pittonet shared his own journey, stressing the importance of understanding that role models should represent positive behavior both on and off the field. “What people try to emulate when they’re at school age isn’t just what you do on field, but off the field as well,” he explained. He highlighted the necessity of showing emotion and nurturing healthy relationships to alter the prevailing culture.
Advocating for change, Ben Vasiliou, CEO of Man Cave, pointed out that while high-profile figures can inspire, everyday role models like fathers, brothers, and coaches play a crucial role in shaping boys’ attitudes toward women. “These men at the front line … can have the most impact on a boy’s trajectory towards how they treat women,” Vasiliou asserted.
Clinical psychologist Zac Seidler shared insights from global research, revealing that men’s perceptions of gender roles are increasingly equitable. “We know what it means to be a good man,” he stated, cautioning that societal pressures often push boys to act contrary to their values. This critical dialogue is essential as Australia grapples with an ongoing crisis of domestic violence.
The forum’s discussions come amid alarmingly high rates of violence against women, highlighting the urgent need for community engagement and reform. As the conversation evolves, attendees are encouraged to reflect on their roles in promoting change.
For those affected by domestic violence, support is available through services such as 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) and Lifeline (13 11 14).
This pivotal event marks a significant step toward redefining masculinity and promoting a culture of respect and safety for all. Stay tuned for more updates as this story develops.
