Paul Merton, the acclaimed British comedian, has shared his heartfelt reflections on love and loss during a recent interview with The Times. The 68-year-old comic revealed that falling in love with his third wife, Suki Webster, felt “natural” following the tragic death of his second wife, Sarah Parkinson, in September 2003.
In the interview, Merton recounted the beginning of his relationship with Webster, who is also a comedian. Their connection blossomed during a tour of India with their improv group, The Comedy Store Players. At that time, both were unwell and sought comfort in brandy and cola. Merton explained, “I suppose this was about six or seven months after Sarah’s death. I don’t think it’s one of those decisions you can make. You see what happens. You’re not looking necessarily, because you have to grieve.”
The couple’s shared experiences allowed them to bond deeply. Merton reminisced about a moment in India when they were enjoying themselves despite their discomfort. “You don’t think, ‘Oh, is this right or wrong?’ It felt natural. It felt OK,” he noted. Suki added, “When you fall in love, you fall in love.”
Merton’s journey through love has not been without its challenges. He was previously married to actress Caroline Quentin, with the couple tying the knot in 1990 before separating seven years later. His marriage to Parkinson came in 1997, but their time together was tragically cut short when she passed away at the age of 41 after a battle with breast cancer. Merton described how he found solace in comedy following her death, stating, “She died on a Monday. Six days later, I went down to The Comedy Store to watch the Sunday show, just to be in a room where 300 people were laughing.”
Merton’s return to the stage provided a therapeutic outlet, allowing him to process his grief. He explained, “When you’re improvising and you’re in the moment, it’s as refreshing for you as it is for the audience. Plus, we have the extra joy of creating that laughter. In my more romantic moments, I think there’s no higher calling.”
Born Paul Martin, Merton adopted his stage name when he joined Equity. His breakthrough came in 1988 with a role on Channel 4’s Whose Line Is It Anyway?, although his ascent to fame faced obstacles, including a six-week stay at the Maudsley psychiatric hospital after experiencing a breakdown. Reflecting on that time, he acknowledged the serious issues faced by others in therapy, contrasting them with his own challenges in the television industry.
Despite initially declining an offer to join Have I Got News For You, believing he was not suited for topical comedy, Merton has become a beloved fixture on the show for over 25 years. His unique blend of deadpan humor and quick wit has endeared him to audiences, solidifying his status as one of the UK’s most cherished comedians.
Merton’s candid remarks about love, loss, and the healing power of laughter underscore the resilience of the human spirit. His journey reflects not only his personal growth but also the profound connections that can emerge even in the wake of tragedy.
